Military Spouses
I help military spouses who are struggling to adapt to military life to find ways to enjoy life and cope so they can enjoy a life without resentment and anger.
With me you’ll learn to find joy in daily life despite your challenges. You’ll learn how to communicate your needs with your spouse so you can feel supported and thrive together through the rest of their military career.
Your partner’s phone just rang and it’s work. They just got called in AGAIN to deal with an issue. There goes that dinner date you all had planned. You know they can’t help it but you can’t help but resent your partner a little bit for it.
They’re supposed to married to you, not the military, right?
This is your third military move, you still don’t know anyone, and you can’t seem to make friends. You feel so alone and disconnected. You’ve been to the spouse socials and sure, they’re nice, but you just don’t feel like you fit in.
Or maybe you’re a few months into your spouse’s deployment. You can hardly get out of bed to take care of the kids, let alone yourself. When was the last time you took a shower or brushed your hair? You don’t know how you can manage the rest of this deployment alone. There’s a laundry list a mile long of things to do, yet you can’t get your butt off the couch and stop scrolling. It’s all so overwhelming. The washing machine just broke. The dog just shit on the carpet. And you can’t even call your spouse and tell them about it because they’re 6,000 miles away in the middle of the desert.
Fast forward and you’re welcoming home your partner from deployment. You’re both excited for them to be home, but everything is so confusing. You just spent the last 6 months managing the household alone and now you’re expected to what? Just go back to the way things were? How are you supposed to go back to normal? Speaking of normal, you’re supposed to want to have lots of sex after deployment, right? This couldn’t feel further from the truth. Why do you feel like there’s a stranger in your house who you don’t quite know anymore?
Does any of this sound familiar? Are you fed up with the challenges military life has thrown your way? Finally making friends and then having to say goodbye. Wondering what your next house is going to look like. Whether or not you’re going to be able to find a job. Not knowing when your spouse is coming home. And that damn box of curtains.
If any of this resonated with you and you’re ready to have help navigating the life of a military spouse, book a consult with me today.
Together we can find ways for you to not only cope, but to find fulfillment in your life.
Being a military spouse is not easy. Trust me, I know! But I can tell you that there are people like you who have found ways to navigate the complexities of military life and find happiness doing it.
You can discover joy despite the hardships.
You can thrive and make friends that will last a lifetime.
In our work together we’ll identify your main struggles with dealing with military life. We’ll find ways to improve your day-to-day life and learn how to cope with the things you can’t change. We will also explore other areas of your life, past or present, that may be impacting your ability to be happy.
Set up an appointment to take that first step toward a happier life.
You might be thinking…
“Everyone else I know seems to be doing fine with military life without a therapist. I should be able to figure this out too.
For starters, not everyone talks about the fact that they’re going to therapy. They don’t want to admit that they needed help. And just like you, maybe they only seem to be doing fine on the outside but are a mess on the inside.
“It’s only a few more years until they retire. I can probably just deal with it until then.”
Just because you can, doesn’t mean you need to. It’s already bad now. Can you imagine just how terrible it will be in a few years? Not only your own mental health, but what will waiting do to your relationship with your spouse?
“My spouse thinks I’m doing great. I can’t find the words to tell them how I’m feeling. How am I supposed to tell them I need therapy?”
I can help with that. Admitting out loud that you’re struggling is hard. But you don’t have to do it alone. And you shouldn’t have to put on a front for your spouse. Don’t you think they’d want to know how you’re actually doing?
Will your resentment grow and ruin your relationship?
Will you become so unhappy or depressed that you begin neglecting your children’s needs?
What happens when you move again and you haven’t learned any new ways to cope with the stress and sadness?
I understand that this may not be easy for you. You’re on the struggle bus but aren’t sure that you’re ready for therapy. Maybe this is just a phase. But ask yourself this.
What happens if it’s not just a phase?
There’s a reason you’re not adapting well.
Let’s work together to figure it out.
There’s more to life…
There is more to life than just military moves and saying goodbye to friends.
There’s more than being mad at your spouse for being gone on your anniversary or for not understanding how you’re feeling.
There’s a life that’s waiting for you.
It’s time to step out of your comfort zone and ask for help so you can stop being angry at the world.
Are you finally ready to admit that you need some help?
Here’s what happens next!
Click that little button that says “Book your free consult.” Yes, that little white button right there.
On the scheduled day and time, we’ll video chat for about 20 minutes to see if we’re a good fit for each other. I’ll ask you some questions to learn more about what you’re going through and you can ask me any questions you might have.
If we’re a good fit, we’ll set up your initial consultation, which is usually about 90 minutes, where we’ll determine the primary issues you want to work on in therapy, set up goals, a treatment plan tailored to your needs, and set up recurring therapy sessions.
Still not sure?
Learn more about me and what therapy with me is like by clicking HERE
If you were to talk to one of my clients, they’d likely say…
“She really makes the extra effort to connect and make sure I feel heard.”
“Laura genuinely cares about her clients and adjusts as necessary to make me feel comfortable.”
My colleagues say things like…
“Laura is an approachable and open therapist. She uses humor in session to help clients feel at ease and is not afraid of any topic that might come up.”
“She fights for what’s best for her clients. She sees the importance of the whole person concept and approaches each client holistically.”
Things my clients tell me that stands out about our work together is…
“There isn’t a topic Laura is afraid to talk about. And she doesn’t make it feel awkward.”
“She collaborates with my other health care providers to make sure I’m getting the best all around care.”
Why we might connect
Like you, I chose to marry into the military life. I actually used to be in the military too. What’s unique about me is that you will not only get a therapist who can understand where you’re coming from as a current military spouse, but one who also knows some of the pressures that come from being the service member.
I’ve been the one struggling to adapt to being a military spouse. Not making friends in a new location. Managing the household when the dogs got sick and the appliances broke, all while my spouse was deployed.
I’ve wanted to scream and yell at my kid for the dumbest stuff just because I was overwhelmed and didn’t think I had any help.
I’ve resented my partner because he couldn’t be there for birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, surgeries, or just when I really needed someone to be with me.
But I learned that it doesn’t have to be like that. Let me help you rise above these problems and find a way to make it work, while also enjoying your life.
You don’t have to keep being miserable.
There’s a way to manage military spouse life.
I know it’s not easy. You’re going to have to work at it. But it is possible.
Book your consult with me now and together we can figure out how to make the most out of your life.